My husband and I are relocating. I have a son (2 years old) from a previous marriage (I am the custodial parent and my son has always lived with me). We sent out our "Notice of Intent to Relocate" to my ex via instruction of our lawyer.

Well, none the less, my ex freaks out. He now wants custody of our son (he states it’s because he will miss him, which is BS- he never keeps visitation and doesn’t want to pay healthcare or child support).

He told our attorney "If she can’t afford to keep him- I want custody."

Well, we are moving just for better oppurtunities for our whole family. I have a daughter with my current husband. We are an intact family and I am a great mom (no one can prove me unfit). Unemployment in my county and the surrounding are 11% and climbing. It has us unsure if my husband’s commission based job will still be here come summer. There is better work for him elsewhere, also better, available medical jobs for me. It is a move to improve the quality of life of our kids.

This is what we put in our new proposed visitation:
a) 1 week in the summer (until 12 years old, then 3 weeks)
b) Every other Christmas
c) May come visit where we live as often as he’d like as long as he has a place to stay
d) Unlimited phone contact during non-school hours
e) 3x a week video contact via internet until child loses interest

What do you think the judge will grant us and possibly say? Do you think the judge will find the new proposed visitation sufficient? Do you think we will be granted the okay to relocate??? I’m just nervous and my lawyer isn’t the consoling type. I just wanted people’s take on this.

More info: My ex was convicted of domestic spousal abuse in the past and had been arrested for it 3 or 4 times before conviction occured.
I tried to get monitered (here in FL) but they said since nothing was directed to my son then I couldn’t have it. My ex used to stalk me and threaten me all the time until I got rid of my cell phone and got a new #. He never took my son except to see his mom- and now that my son is potty trained (thanks to me before he turned 2) and talks well- he wants him. He drinks all the time and smokes cigarettes in the house and pot. I would flip out if they’d grant him custody (I’m sure they won’t). We just really need to move and it has nothing to do with my ex. He wanted to do mediation so we don’t move. He’s an idiot. We can’t stay here!

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I currently have a family law lawyer. I opened a child support case and my lawyer said that he will now only be able to handle visitation, not child support. is this true?
my lawyer is not trying to avoid child support. in fact he has been. what i meant was that he says he is not able to work with us with child support if i get the county child support people involved. then it becomes their job.

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My boyfriend and I came to a southern California city in March, under the impression that we would be working for my cousin and her husband’s construction co. When we arrived we found out that The husband had filed for divorce because she was an alcoholic and having an affair. He has custody of the kids and has a restraining order against her. He allowed us to stay with them temporarily. After a week we asked him about the jobs and he says he didn’t know anything about it and because of the recession he is laying off people and doesn’t have any positions. We stayed a few more weeks and during this time he would sneak my cousin in the house so she could stay the night with him without the kids knowing ( we would take their 3 children to the park while he snuck her in) The kids were questioned weekly by cps and thats why he never let them know she was in the house. She would come to the house everyday while he was at work and the kids were in school. During these times she would be getting drunk and it started affecting OUR relationship ( I don’t drink). One day she physically pushed me and I hit her. She then told me and my boyfriend to get out. We spoke to her husband about this and he said he felt it was best we leave. The only money we had was . so we jumped on a trolley and ended up in another city a few miles away. All of our clothes and luggage was left in their home. A few days later my boyfriend called the husband and begged for the job so, he told him to meet him at a neutral place to turn in his id’s and fill out an application on a Friday and that he would start the job on Monday. The day he met him for the application and id’s, the police were there and arrested my boyfriend. They said we broke into the husbands home that morning. When they took my boyfriend to the house for the neighbors to identify him. The neighbors told them it wasn’t him (my boyfriend is black and the person who broke in was white) The police detective released him and gave him a card to call so we could get our things at a later time. We called everyday for 2 months with no progress. The detective would never call us back or would tell us that he couldn’t reach him about our property. We finally quit calling and a month later they issued a warrant for my boyfriend’s arrest. He has been in jail for a month an a half. Because we have no money for a lawyer they have charged him with burglary and grand theft and have given him a year and a half probation. This is all so ridiculous and it makes me angry. At the time of his arrest we were both FT students at a technical school. I am now living on the streets but I am still going to school, I maintain a 4.0 gpa and have perfect attendance. What should we do? he will be released in 20 days.

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Ok, here is what has happened my fiance and me has kept the 4 year old from his mother because she was never there and he didn’t look healthy and was always sick when we would pick him up. My question is how does it work if she goes about getting visitation rights. There is no custody between both parents so by law in nc the father had every right to take him without getting in trouble. Now she is trying to get her rights. I am not sure how this is going to work out because she will have all right to take him back and start sueing for child support again which was suspended. The child has been living with us for 10 months now and has not seen his biological mother because of the fact of her taking him. I know we may have to hire a lawyer but I am trying to get the best advise before hiring one. Please help!!!
advice! (sp)
In addition the mother does not have a place of her own, a job, or a car. The only money she received was child support from the father which I am now with.

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I have a friend who was arrested because her ex filed charges against her when she moved away with their child. He was emotionally abusive and since their relationship was convicted of domestic violence. Unfortunately because she did not have full custody he reported her as having "kidnapped" their child. THis person stole from her while she was pregnant and had no interest in raising the child except to try to toture her. She has been moved to Cali even though she was in Pennsylvania at the time. Her older child is in PA with family, her young child is with His mother in Ohio (he can’t even care for her himself) and she has lost her home, her job, her car and family. I believe it will work out but she needs a good lawyer and meanwhile her kids are stranded across the country. This is an outrage and nothing can give back to her the innocence lost. Any advice would be helpful.
Thank you
Wow, I asked a serious question and amused_observer was just rude, and insensitive. Obviously there are many avenues for free legal help and that was the percise reason I posted this question. I thought I could get a response from someone who may have been in a similar situation and had some luck in getting legal aid. Thank you for the advice on picking up a **** phone book that was great along with the dripping sarcasm that I must be too lazy to do that. Your sympathy for the situation was obvious and your comments show your ignorance.. amazing.

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I had to leave california after a 5 year stay due to losing my fortune 500 job then moved back home temporary to Mississippi and this state sure does SUCK & is nothing like the "city of angeles".I had two jobs and was loving it because I kept money on me.I have received unemployment for about a year now due to the bad economy and I wanna get back to work and my best friend is pushing me to move to Atlanta but he is married and I am divorced and my wife and step kids are in Their home state of California.Is the economy better in Atlanta or is it true that Atlanta is Highly over rated like I was told In California.I just left from a tour in Atlanta and to be honest;That place feels just like being in Mississippi with all the trees and No sandy beaches,palm trees or mountains.I made .00 an hour in California with my two jobs added together.Is the money good in Atlanta as I work with Copiers and Fax Machines.All I saw in the ATL was alot of Tranny’s.Please help me decide because My brother is in L.A. as I speak and he told me that California was at ROCK BOTTOM and that Atlanta was not ranked as high as they once was.

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been married 11 yrs,wife moved out 8 yrs ago,I got soul custody & she decided she wasn’t going to sign contract because she’s living w/ abuser & just had baby & i wont bring her there & she never calls up daughter.she flips out a lot & i just gave notice for leaving my job in summer & move to another state & now i’m stuck.she owes lots of credit cards that have to be paid by sale of house. i’m little slow & she’s taken total advantage of me for 11 yrs. i am a custodian for nyc schools & my bro in law (lawyer) won’t help me at all.Was told i will need seperate lawyer for making her sign contract to sell house, & divorce. i paid for divorce twice on agreeing few yrs ago & lost lots of money.if anyone can help me please let me no where I can find a great compassionate lawyer. i live in Levittown, ny

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i have recently began thinking of family law, there is no rush for me to have a definant job in my mind and its like 4 years before i finish high school, but i want to have an idea of what i want to do when i am older. I was thinking law as its helping people and has a good income.

how much does a family lawyer earn? i want to do family law basically consisting around children and the responsibility of a parent after divorce. when you become a family lawyer do you have to do all topics in Family law (e.g. divorce, marriage, civil unions?)

thanks a heap

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I have 3 very small children. I have a lot on my plate besides being a mom, a single mom at that. I live with my mom and step-dad while I have been going through a divorce and custody battle. My mom has been letting me stay here but my divorce just isn’t ending and now my lawyer has dropped me because I can’t afford to pay her. I get very little support from thier dad and I have no degree. I have to move because the amount of stress it is causing everyone for me to stay with my mom is unbarable for everyone including my kids. My step-dad does not want us there. The problem it is very hard to hold a job with three kids and with the amount of money I make, 99% of it goes to daycare. I cant get assistance because I receive some support though not nearly enough. How do women do it on their own with no help (my parents are moving out of state) in southern California (I do have to stay in Southern

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my husband is filing for modification for child support because he lost his job a year ago and he tried to keep up but is to high. the ex went and got a lawyer and want to obligate my husband to pay her lawyer plus us to get a lawyer and also she denied the modification because she does not want it to be modified. i am the only one that is working we can not afford a lawyer and child support told us that by doing it by court is the only way why she hired a lawyer, if is only a modification, can we stop this and if we give the lawyer all the document they are asking is saying yes to her demands, the court told us that they will set up a date and wait. what can we do she is harrasing us.
thank you for your answers now i know what to do, i am very prepare people are telling me than i am more prepared than a lawyer. i know that God and the law is in our side and this time justice is going to be served. for the other partie they will have to be prepared for what is coming for them .

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