My situation is this. My mom wants to go through a divorce from my dad after being separated (not legally) for more than 6 years. All this time my mom has been paying off mortgage payments for the house herself among other bills. If they go through the divorce process, can my dad legally get a piece of the house when my mom sells it? Can anyone shed some light in this.
I need help. My ex-husband is planning to visit although he hasn’t seen our 2 kids in two years (3 visits in 6 years) and doesn’t keep regular contact with them. How can I prevent him from seeing them until custody is finalized? We are pending court right now-he left long ago and now, because I got re-married, has cut child support so I had to file. Now, he wants to play father of the year and hasn’t even talked to the kids in months! The kids are 7 & 8, they were 1 &2 when he "dropped us off". If you can answer this, thanks. My ex will be here tomorrow! His lawyer just told me via e-mail like 30 minutes ago. He has two kids by two other women (ages 6 and 2) and has been remarried for two years himself. I just got married 6 mos. ago.
No, he didn’t get a wake-up call. I actually have an e-mail from him where he "hopes my new husband has deep pockets b/c his are done." Not to mention that I filed in January and he has called only 3 times since and he has NEVER seen his 6 year old…
The kids do not know him-he blows in for a week at a time every two years and spends limited time with them, then disappears for another two years and they wonder why for a little while and then forget about him because he won’t contact them. My husband has been with us for three of the six years and he is the only dad they know.
Can anyone tell me where I can find out more information about the Texas Family Laws about Child Abandonment? Specifically the length of time that is considered abandonment and how to get the father’s rights signed over? He has had no contact with her for 6 years and has made no child support payments in 5 years. I cannot currently afford a lawyer.
I KNOW ITS LONG, BUT PLEASE READ IT…. I NEED HONEST OPINIONS 
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Chapter 1
GOODBYE’S
It was a Saturday afternoon when my mother drove me to the airport. It was around 68 degrees outside, but in my opinion it couldn’t get any colder. I love the weather in Southern California, but I have to leave. I am moving in with my aunt in London, England for a couple years. I don’t want to leave my mother, but my aunt needs me to stay with her and help with her business. My mom didn’t want me to go, and I didn’t want to go either.
“Lyra,” my mother pleaded “you don’t have to go” , you can stay here and we can make an excuse why to you cant go.”
“Mom I have to go and help her, and I think I might actually want to go.” I lied. I wasn’t really a very good liar, but these past couple of weeks, I’ve been getting better at it. I’m actually surprised that my mother would fall for the lie in the first place, I have been telling her I want to go for around 2 weeks now, so I suppose it‘s getting easier to believe each time I say it. I don’t like lying to my mother, but in this case it’s necessary.
She has been wanting to visit New Jersey for a couple of months because her boyfriend lives there. So this is that perfect opportunity. Her and my dad got a divorce when I was 6 years old. I don’t see my dad much, and I miss him. But I usually spend the summer with him in Florida, every year. However last year he got remarried to a woman who hates me. I don’t know why, but it’s fine cause I’m not very fond of her either. I don’t want to have to go and stay with her for like 3 months, so I’m using my aunt as an excuse not to go.
“Look mom, I will call you as soon as I land, so you know I’m alright.” I said. “I’ll miss you, I love you mom.”
I looked into her childish eyes, and I began to see how much this separation would hurt her. I could see the tears forming in her eyes, and began to feel them start to sting mine, as well. I fought back the urge to hug her and tell her I wanted to stay. I started to walk away from her, and then I made the mistake of turning back to catch one more glimpse of her, to carry with me through this long alienation.
“Oh, mom I’m so sorry.” I choked. “I love you, and I’ll be back before you really notice I’m gone.”
“I love you Lyra.” she sobbed into my hair as she pulled me in for a goodbye hug. I gently pulled away after a moment, and kissed her on the cheek.
“Bye, mom” I choked before turning and boarding my plane.
After I landed in the airport I began to feel the panic set in as I looked around, but did not see, my aunt. I looked in the waiting area. And the bathrooms, but she was nowhere to be found. I started to form a plan inside my head of what to do if I couldn’t find her, should I try to find where she lives? Or should I just go home? When two words broke my reverie.
“Hello, Lyra.” said a soft, reassuring voice. I spun around to see a beautiful, dark haired boy standing behind me. He looked like he was around my age, maybe 16 or 17 years old.
“Umm.” I was at a total loss for words. “W-who are you?”
“Oh, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to scare you. My name is Dean Cain.” he apologized in a polite tone. “You’re aunt sent me here to pick you up.”
“Oh.” For a moment all I could do was stare at him like an idiot. After a few seconds a wide, lopsided grin spread across his face. It took my breath away. He put a hand on my shoulder and started to guide me through the crowded airport. I didn’t know why, but as soon as his hand touched me my heart skipped a beat, and then went into overdrive.
“I’m sorry, but how did you know I was Lyra?” I regretted saying the words as soon as they were out, but it was already too late to take them back.
“You’re aunt Sharon showed me a picture of you. And then told me to pick you up here.”
“How do you know my aunt Sharon?” Again I regretted saying it as soon as it was out. He laughed a soft laugh and then looked down at me.
“I work for her, in her store.” He answered. “Not the best job, but it still helps out.”
“Oh. Okay.” I couldn’t look away from his face. He looked like someone somebody would picture an angel to look like. I was completely overreacting, I mean I didn’t even know him. But I just stared at his face until he looked down at me, and I looked away. Embarrassed, I watched my feet the rest of the way to his car. I didn’t know much about cars, but I did know this car was definitely old. It was an odd faded red color with rust on the sides. It looked like it was in need for a serious paintjob.
He took his hand off my shoulder, and walked me around to the passenger side of the car. He opened my door for me and then shut it after I got in. No boy had ever opened a door for me before, accept for that occasional time my dad would try to be a gentleman.
He got in on the driver’s side, and turned on the car. It was very loud and kind of sounded like it was choking at first, but then
IT’S NOT LIKE TWILIGHT AT ALL…. IT JUST SEEMS IT AT FIRST. TRUST ME. TWILIGHT WAS A GOOD BOOK AND ALL BUT IM NOT GONNA STEAL STEPHENIE’S IDEA….
I’VE NEVER EVEN READ ‘HOW I LIVE NOW’ …. BUT I WILL SOON. IT SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD BOOK 
My husband and I split nearly 6 years ago. I had hired and atty at the time and gave a retainer fee. Only a portion was used. We never finalized a legal speration or a divorce. Is the atty obligated by law (I am in NY) to return any unused monies or is it to their discretion or am I just out the money? Thanks!
I’m new at this, so don’t be too harsh, ok? but please read, i need all the constructive criticism i can get!!!
Chapter 1
GOODBYE’S
It was a Saturday afternoon when my mother drove me to the airport. It was around 68 degrees outside, but in my opinion it couldn’t get any colder. I love the weather in Southern California, but I have to leave. I am moving in with my aunt in New York City for a couple years. I don’t want to leave my mother, but my aunt needs me to stay with her and help with her business. My mom didn’t want me to go, and I didn’t want to go either.
“Lyra,” my mother pleaded “you don’t have to go” , you can stay here and we can make an excuse why to you cant go.”
“Mom I have to go and help her, and I think I might actually want to go.” I lied. I wasn’t really a very good liar, but these past couple of weeks, I’ve been getting better at it. I’m actually surprised that my mother would fall for the lie in the first place, I have been telling her I want to go for around 2 weeks now, so I suppose it‘s getting easier to believe each time I say it. I don’t like lying to my mother, but in this case it’s necessary.
She has been wanting to visit New Jersey for a couple of months because her boyfriend lives there. So this is that perfect opportunity. Her and my dad got a divorce when I was 6 years old. I don’t see my dad much, and I miss him. But I usually spend the summer with him in Florida, every year. However last year he got remarried to a woman who hates me. I don’t know why, but it’s fine cause I’m not very fond of her either. I don’t want to have to go and stay with her for like 3 months, so I’m using my aunt as an excuse not to go.
“Look mom, I will call you as soon as I land, so you know I’m alright.” I said. “I’ll miss you, I love you mom.”
I looked into her childish eyes, and I began to see how much this separation would hurt her. I could see the tears forming in her eyes, and began to feel them start to sting mine, as well. I fought back the urge to hug her and tell her I wanted to stay. I started to walk away from her, and then I made the mistake of turning back to catch one more glimpse of her, to carry with me through this long alienation.
“Oh, mom I’m so sorry.” I choked. “I love you, and I’ll be back before you really notice I’m gone.”
“I love you Lyra.” she sobbed into my hair as she pulled me in for a goodbye hug. I gently pulled away after a moment, and kissed her on the cheek.
“Bye, mom” I choked before turning and boarding my plane.
After I landed in the airport I began to feel the panic set in as I looked around, but did not see, my aunt. I looked in the waiting area. And the bathrooms, but she was nowhere to be found. I started to form a plan inside my head of what to do if I couldn’t find her, should I try to find where she lives? Or should I just go home? When two words broke my reverie.
“Hello, Lyra.” said a soft, reassuring voice. I spun around to see a beautiful, dark haired boy standing behind me. He looked like he was around my age, maybe 15 or 16 years old.
“Umm.” I was at a total loss for words. “W-who are you?”
“Oh, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to scare you. My name is Dean Cain.” he apologized in a polite tone. “You’re aunt sent me here to pick you up.”
“Oh.” For a moment all I could do was stare at him like an idiot. After a few seconds a wide, lopsided grin spread across his face. It took my breath away. He put a hand on my shoulder and started to guide me through the crowded airport. I didn’t know why, but as soon as his hand touched me my heart skipped a beat, and then went into overdrive.
“I’m sorry, but how did you know I was Lyra?” I regretted saying the words as soon as they were out, but it was already too late to take them back.
“You’re aunt Sharon showed me a picture of you. And then told me to pick you up here.”
“How do you know my aunt Sharon?” Again I regretted saying it as soon as it was out. He laughed a soft laugh and then looked down at me.
“I work for her, in her store.” He answered. “Not the best job, but it still helps out.”
“Oh. Okay.” I couldn’t look away from his face. He looked like someone somebody would picture an angel to look like. I was completely overreacting, I mean I didn’t even know him. But I just stared at his face until he looked down at me, and I looked away. Embarrassed, I watched my feet the rest of the way to his car. I didn’t know much about cars, but I did know this car was definitely old. It was an odd faded red color with rust on the sides. It looked like it was in need for a serious paintjob.
He took his hand off my shoulder, and walked me around to the passenger side of the car. He opened my door for me and then shut it after I got in. No boy had ever opened a door for me before, accept for that occasional time my dad would try to be a gentleman.
He got in on the driver’s side, and turned on the car. It was very loud and kind of sounded like it w
My wife and I have never really had that lovey dovey type of relationship as far back to high school when we met. Or at least I don’t remember it. I have cheated countless times and she has had affairs over the years that I never knew about until much later. If I had I would have left then as these were relationships not flings. Why were we together during all this? I have no idea. We went about 6 years faithful then she wanted to see other guys. I didn’t want to but had no choice in the matter. That turned out to be a great summer for me when I accepted it and moved on. Then she did everything she could to get me back and for some reason I returned. Then a couple more years went by and she cheated again with some guy she worked with in a bar. I didn’t know but they all treated me like a jerk when I came in. A couple years later I figured it out but it was too late by then to do anything about it. I still can’t believe that she let these people treat me like this especially when I lived with her and was supposedly her friend. Being from a dysfunctional family I have been bred to protect and defend those close to me. I can’t believe she doesn’t care how others treat me. Over the years she has shown this type of disloyalty and never sticks up for me despite me disowning my family for not accepting her. I must admit that I have turned to other women for sex during the following years and feel slimy about it. I am not faultless by any means. She is a good person but lacks this protective nature. We finally got married after 18 years of being together. Sex is good even now but not great. She puts no effort, nor has she ever put effort into trying to be sexy or trying new things despite my many pleas to spice things up. I have begged her to show me that she cares about me but she just keeps going back to her complacent ways. I did try to leave after a year of engagement but she fought to stay. Not sure why. I think she loves the security and I have always thought that through the years. We now have a 5 year old son who we both adore. I never want to hurt him and am considering staying for him despite my desperate and lonely situation. I am also noticing that I am drinking more and more lately to numb myself which is scary as my father was an alcoholic. My wife has not worked in 6 years and barely worked for the 4 before that yet I never pressured her. Now she wants a new house and all the best things yet she refuses to take the initiative to get a career going.She has a B.S. Degree and I still pay for her college loans. I make a very good living and we live less than 5 blocks to one of the best beaches in Southern California, yes she is very spoiled. I just don’t know what the hell to do anymore. I should say that at 30 she got diabetes which was hard on her and still is at times but she has totally let it steal her life and acts like a retired person. I know this is long and kind of all over the place but if anyone has any advise I would love to hear from someone. I am 40 years old but look 30 am in great shape. I try to encourage her to work out too but she starts then quits and resents me saying anything about it. She has a naturally thin and busty body, she is blessed in this way but now it’s starting to sag so why not put a little effort in? She completes nothing that she starts. She is a great mom and I am not down playing that but I want a freaking wife back someday! Why does she get to quit being a wife? I ask her all the time to plan a date or a vacation or get a baby sitter which she never has. I take her and my son out every weekend for dinners, golf, movies, playing at the beach/park, whatever but no reciprocation. I get no energy or motivation from her and it is draining. Every time we have a long talk about this she starts crying in self pity and says how she wants to change but then we fall back into the same mode and nothing ever changes. My god I have to stop or I’ll go all night. Any comments are greatly appreciated! Thanks for listening.
I need a great lawyer that helps non custodial parents rights. I have benn fighting my exgirlfriend in cook county court for the 6 years of me son life. I amjust fed up with her and her always winning. It’s bad enough that she dousn’t provide for my son like she should bit on top of that she always takes me back for money when it’s not needed. I buy my sons school supplies and extra stuff during the year and thats not even court ordered. I just sick of being the sperm doner and not having any rights. I should have to support my son not his mother and new child when I have a wife and three more young daughters. Please help me find a lawyer that won’t settle for anything less then fair. I would also like feed back on anyone that is or dealing with custodial parents just wanting more money in cook county. The best laywer needed
I am a Roman Catholic seperated for last 6 years due to my hus cheating, drinking & beating… I have 2 small kids. I wanted a divorce from him but he is not ready to give me. Even the Syro-Malabar church is not ready…As he is from Syro- Malabar & I from Latin. My latin church is in full suport with me. I need a very good lawyer, who will help me to get divorce and even my kids should not be give to him even to meet.
one, and the husband lives at his mothers while the home is completely remodeled by his soon 2 be wife and she and her teenage children are living in the home for MONTHS b4 the husband comes to live there…. Then 2 years later they marry…. She makes 15 to 20K a year, he 100K. He has a list he makes of money she owes and takes her paychecks, makes her pay 1/2 the taxes, does not put her on any accounts (instead it’s his mother who is on everything) (That’s another ISSUE)
The wife does not have free power to do anything, not even buy rugs at Walmart. But he buys 8K TV’s, and so on. Oh he drives a great car and she drives a 10 yr old car. Well anyways, she is afraid to leave with no money. She just got a good job, but he wants her checks. They have been married 2 and a half years. Her good job just started 2 weeks ago.
She is 52, divorced with 4 kids and 5 grandkids to which he hates and calls the law on… The hubby is 51, military, never married, no kids and attached 2 mama???
He degrades her by calling her names and cuts her off sexually making her (a very attractive woman) feel terrible!
He also is very anal as to how, where and when things are done, which is always his mothers way.
But the real question is, what can this woman get out of this? He thinks he can stick HER for half? They have NOTHING IN THIER NAMES, in fact the wife has terrible credit, so he has never fixed it in the 6 years total they have been together in that home. He has perfect credit and is a compulsive spender with expensive tatse.
She is a blue collar worker with pay to match. She owns NOTHING.
He gives her NO MONEY.
I mean this is crazy!
Can’t she at least set herself up in an aprtment???? She needs to leave this lunitic. He is a drunk who thinks he has power.
