I have no friends anymore?
Um I need some help, here’s a little background info. so hopefully you can give me some advice. I went to a private school until i was 13 and in 8th grade. i was one of the most popular girl in the school, had loads of friends, and was very happy. But then my parents got divorced and i had to move to a new school in a new, snotty, beach town in orange county (think laguna beach but worse). it has been 3 years since i moved. i only made one close friend but she ditched me. i feel like i have grown to become more mature than my peers and i am not interested in their dumb drama- who hooked up with who, etc. i really couldn’t care less. i don’t know how i’m going to handle this last year of highschool can anyone give me any tips? and my school is very cliquey. the people are so snobbish. i don’t know what to do. i get along so much better with adults. i feel like im a 30 year old trapped in a 16 year old right now it’s so frustrating what do i do?
21 Responses
Linear Lisa
26 Jan 2010
da balla 22
26 Jan 2010
just try to finish it out and make friends in other towns. i’ll be ur friend if you need one
Brunette Barbie
26 Jan 2010
I was the same way, my boyfriend was 5 years older than me while I was in HS, try meetup.com maybe theres get 2gethers. If youre old enough 2 get in any clubs thatd be a good way.
the_only_soloros
26 Jan 2010
what do you go to school for? education, right? focus on your education, not on your social standing.
Knipples
26 Jan 2010
Keep your head up high and remember you are the one who is going to turn out to be a stronger, wiser person. I can understand how difficult it is.. But the best thing you can do is ignore your classmates and go about your business. You’ll be out of there before you know it and you’ll make great friends in college.
*Lei*
26 Jan 2010
aww im terribly sorry. i kinda feel that way too. im only 18 and all my friends are at least 21 cuz for some reason all the other 18 year olds that live around me are waay to dramatic and i dont want to deal with it. i guess the only thing you could do it try to make friends or just live out the last year then college! hopefully you’ll meet more interesting people. goodluck! =]
cococremejuju
26 Jan 2010
I don’t know, the only thing I can say is to focus on the last year of school, so you can go to college. College is where you will meet all your friends, and possibly a few guys you may go out with. I had friends in college, and I wasn’t popular in high school at all. I was the most hated because girls were so jealous of me. So don’t worry about all that not having any friends crap, you are moving into adulthood, and pretty soon, you will have a husband and kids, and they will be all that you will be concerned with.
eva
26 Jan 2010
How bout making friends with the boys. Boys are usually more friendly as long as they know their place.(just friends)
Iknowstuff…
26 Jan 2010
Sounds like my Senior year. Just go to school get your work done and try not to take is too seriously. Immature Highschoolers are cruel and will torture you if they know that it gets to you. To pass the time, why not get an after school job. You may make friends there, or you could go to community college for some of your high school classes. While you are still in high school college is free. Take advantage of it. At least you would be around older people as well as other high school students.
Take care, I hope everything works out for you.
music4life
26 Jan 2010
Make new friends. If they don’t say hi to you, you say hi to them. Find a person that is extrememly nice and chill with them for awhile.
I went to a private school for 4 years and yeah I was popular.
Then when I went to the public I started freking out if I would make friends. Then this girl, she came up to me and just started talking to me. And then that girl, was my way in to popularity. But not the "OMG I broke a nail!" thing. But it helped me get more friends. Just from that 1 girl.
Well all I can say is you can survive high school. Even if you have no friends. (Which I doubt!) You will have friends in the future I PROMISE
mishasato94
26 Jan 2010
how about trying to change your personality …..maybe they snobbed you ’cause of your own actions..be friendly and start off some nice conversation with them….
ChicaLolita
26 Jan 2010
Seriously, I believe your final year of high school will fly by. Use this time to focus on your grades, Study for SATS and the like, make friends with your teachers so they will write you glowing recommendations so you can get into a good college. You cares about high school. College is were you make friends that last a lifetime. If you just keep being nice to people and enjoy just being at school even though you don’t have a crew to hang with, maybe people will see that you’re cool and don’t care and then maybe they will go more out of there way to hang with you. You can even make friends with some other kids that no one hangs out with. They don’t have to be your best buds, you don’t have to have sleep-overs and go to the mall with them, but at least you’ll have someone to eat with at lunch and maybe share notes with. Are you into any sports? It seems that people who are on teams together always hang out? Maybe that could be a away to find friends your age. Good luck!
Namiyaa
26 Jan 2010
Well, I used to have quite a few friends,
but after some thing,(i had a anxiety break down, or something) Now I only have one really good friend, In the end it shows you, who was really your friend and who wasn’t.
Try Finding new friends that have the same interest as you, On facebook or myspace or something like that.
Bikerchic
26 Jan 2010
Think about why you were so popular before. Was it your looks along with an out-going personality? Did you know everyone since you were little? Did you have the fashion? Well if you look at what you had before and what you have now, there are some dramatic changes. Your family isn’t a whole-unit anymore and you live in a different location. You don’t want to change who you are to have friends . But you might be going through situational depression. That’s the feeling of not caring and everything your peers are doing is stupid. you might feel like you can’t fake a smile for them. what you need is to direct your emotions and energy towards a sport. Try cycling, or join a team at school that you are interested in. The athletes in high school are usually the most excepting.
Saviour
26 Jan 2010
never think that you’re too old ok… I’m 23 and I miss everyday the time when I used to love tickling my friends. But now it’s aincient history and stupid. You see, things become stupid and dumb as you grow older. You think you’re 30 now.. what’s gonna happen whe you’re really 30?? Did you think about that….
Anyway, if you think the people in your town is a bit odd then don;t treat them that way. You can’t live your life alone ok… trust me it’s not that ‘exciting’ as it looks in the movies. So if you want friends, you gotta respect them to get that friendship…. Now go for it before youre 90 lol
Mak
26 Jan 2010
wow i feel the same way! my way of dealing with it is i got involved in sports out side of school or anything and it was great i met people who were fun and liked me for me. but if your not into sports you could join some sort of club or volunteer some were. the best thing to do is get involved in somthing out side of school
>good luck and i hope i helped.
HelpMe.
26 Jan 2010
JOIN STUFF! Lots of stuff. Sports, yearbook, student council, drama, music, anything your schools offers that sounds like you might be a LITTLE bit interested in (stuff like that, especially student leadership, looks GREAT on a college application!). Maybe even do some stuff out of school like dance or community theater. You’re BOUND to find at least one friend in something you join, and that typically leads to you being friends with their friends. Trust me it will be fine. Remember that friends are important, but popularity means nothing. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are, and you will have a wonderful high school experience. I promise you.
P.S. I love how whoever posted the 3rd answer a)didn’t even answer the question b) was snotty and C) cited her source aws "RN"…like being a nurse has anything to do with giving advice to a teenage girl looking for friends. It makes me giggle.
lollypoplover10
26 Jan 2010
Ya i no orange county, jk, i find it interesting that ur private school was not defined as cliquey, but im sure it was, and that you were just in a clique. Just try to find one friend again, or hook up with the old one.
muchas pooches r
26 Jan 2010
School years have been hard for all generations.Kids can be very mean spirited & are.You even fell into the "popular" game.
find things of interest-art would be an example.When you are participating in things you enjoy,you naturally meet others with something you share in common.
Get involved with activities outside of school as well & meet new friends.
Some people that may appear snobbish, may just be shy or afraid to approach.How do you present yourself to others as well.
You will get thru school just fine.I promise you that you are NOT at the maturity level of a 30 yr. old & trapped in a teen body.
Treat all as you wish to be treated,be approachable & be open to new friendships as well.School is not the only place to find friends.There has to be one person there needing & offering friendship.
Wyatt
31 May 2010
I know this is an old conversation but you are totally like me. I am 16 almost 17 and I feel like I’m 30 or something. I don’t get why kids wanna act to stupid and immature. I also used to live in the midwest in Missouri and then I moved to California and poof! stupid kids
Wyatt
31 May 2010
Actually I’m probably more like early 20s than 30 that’s pushing it probably
First, I’m an 85 year old trapped in a 40 year old’s body, so you’re not entirely alone.
Second, you don’t want to peak in high school, so take solace in the fact that things are seriously not peaking for you right now.
Third, thank the Gods for your intelligence – I can’t tell you how many people who don’t understand that the phrase is "I couldN’T care less", not "I could care less". But you? You GET IT! I could fill a novel with how much those people annoy me, but I’ll stop.
Finally, watch the end of the movie "Little Miss Sunshine" – the part where the gay uncle (Frank) and the newly unmuted teen (Dwayne) are on the dock:
Dwayne: I wish I could just sleep until I was eighteen and skip all this crap-high school and everything-just skip it.
Frank: Do you know who Marcel Proust is?
Dwayne: He’s the guy you teach.
Frank: Yeah. French writer. Total loser. Never had a real job. Unrequited love affairs. Gay. Spent 20 years writing a book almost no one reads. But he’s also probably the greatest writer since Shakespeare. Anyway, he uh… he gets down to the end of his life, and he looks back and decides that all those years he suffered, Those were the best years of his life, ’cause they made him who he was. All those years he was happy? You know, total waste. Didn’t learn a thing. So, if you sleep until you’re 18… Ah, think of the suffering you’re gonna miss. I mean high school? High school-those are your prime suffering years. You don’t get better suffering than that.
If all else fails, go find someone who has a problem you can help with. Or hang out with a group of kids you used to think were freaks. You’re already out of your comfort zone, use it to give you courage.