help My ex husband going crazy again?
4 years ago i got divorce in orange county,ca My ex husband wanted to take away my daughter for no reason, he was very abuse person everything got fixed in court I got grand full custody of my daughter and child support, and i move with my parents in los angeles county, since then i been in the system of tempary relief welfare, the child support office of los angeles took the case from my divorce to garnish my ex husbands checks. Now that 4yrs has pass he been paying his child support since then but he wants to take the case again to court because he says he cants pay it and wants to stop paying and wants things his ways because he is in deep debt cant pay his car payment and bills. can he do that and take the case again to the same courts and same judge if me and my daughter don’t live in that county anymore and state child support is now handling the case what can i do.. he is threating me alot and i’m scaried of his harresments
To add.. Im going to college and doing freelance work. i go by ways to make money also. His salary has not change and still working the same job over 12years, the only thing that he is going nuts because he has a big debt credit card he owns that he uses for his attorney fees is stupid and over debt of 42 g because he helps his mom to remodel her house and lives with her. so he doesnt pay rent. he lives for free. so i don’t understand how can he reopen the child support case if Nothing has change i don’t know what he is going to show proof< he is a very good liar.
7 Responses
Agnostic Queen
14 Jun 2010
another crazy da
14 Jun 2010
As long as he cant prove that you are an unfit parent he cant take her. Let him give the reasons of hes in debt to the court and they will laugh at him
ouragon
14 Jun 2010
Stop talking to him. Maybe just give him an email address. The judge doesn’t care whether he can pay his bills. Child support comes first. If he goes in with that complaint, they will dismiss his case. The jurisdiction is where the child lives. He can’t change it.
a
14 Jun 2010
hes probably just not making money and is frustrated about having to pay every month
Crazy In Orange
14 Jun 2010
I don’t know what it is about Orange County but it seem like everybody here is crazy. Does he live in south OC ? Many many nut bags live there.
john paul
14 Jun 2010
only in decrease of income. If he has the same income, he needs to learn to live in within his means. Just trying to be selfish. After four years, you haven’t found a job. Us tax payers thank you.
Juicy
14 Jun 2010
if his income has dropped or he is under severe hardship he can have the agreement amended. as for his threats, the reason why he can threaten you is because he knows that he can. you have to grow a backbone and stop allowing his threats and harassment to effect you this way. if you do not, then your child will grow up and meet someone just like him and react just like you. as for support overall i hope that you are getting government assistance because you are going to school. if not, God help you! it always amazes me what women and men allow themselves to become so dependent on their spouse. stand up for yourself, this is also another way you will increase your level of self confidence. moreover take control of your life. you are divorced from him, he is not longer the excuse for your situation.
Relax… hes bullying you because of his financial mess. He can go in front of a judge all he wants and all the judge is going to say is this "kids come first" , he/she dont care if he cant make his car payments or debt payments, all family judges care about is if the kids get their shelter, food and clothing…. thats it. Your ex has an obligation enforced by the courts four years ago, that comes first, if he goes and gets himself in debt, thats his problem. Even if he claims bankruptcy, as long as he works and uses a social insurance number, your getting your money. So dont worry about his threats… hes sucking wind. Tell him go ahead, you will be waiting for a supeona (you wont get one). Continue letting state child support deal with him. As for being scared of him, if it gets that bad, put a restraining order on him. And be careful, always keep doors locked, never go out alone at night and dont fall for his nice guy crap, he might use it to get you vulnerable someplace.
good luck!