help me with this joke here – if you marry in north carolina-divorce in south carolina-are you still brother and sister -in all the other states-stumped in southern cal-

I live on the east coast but travel to Southern California often for job purposes. While I’m there, I’ve heard a variation of this joke from numerous random people…"Don’t ever get divorced in California. Unless you’re a woman." This statement is usually followed by a divorce horror story on how this guy or that guy got "raked over the coals" during proceedings. I always thought it was perhaps because married men in California make a lot more money on average, and thus would have to pay out more in alimony. I wanted to ask anyway out of curiousity. Are there any extra state laws or statutes that give advantages to a woman in a California divorce? Or is it just a long-standing joke among guys with no real basis in fact? Why are California divorces the subject of so many jokes? Thanks for your answers.

*Note* I’m not trying to start a men vs. women debate here, so let’s please keep the gender bashing to a minimum.

I have been paying spousal support to a woman who has been living with her boyfriend since 1997. (She was awarded spousal support in my divorce, and she told the judge she lives with her mother.) I want to terminate spousal support.

I am trying to gain some insight for a friend of mine. She lives in Southern California, and is going through a divorce & custody battle involving her young daughter. Her soon to be ex is a multiple ex-con felon involving drugs. He constructively abandoned her when he went to jail and was gone for over a year this last time. His interest in his daughter is minimal, but HIS folks ARE interested in their grandaughter, and are fighting for visitation rights through their son. He usually just picks up his daughter and drops them off at his folks for the weekend, and does this every other weekend. But now, since attorneys are involved, the grandparents want to ensure the grandaughter doesn’t move away, and are stipulating she cannot move any further away than an adjecent county. The mother is using the services of an inexpensive attorney, and he is saying there isn’t anything he can do about it. The mother may want to move furtheraway some day. Is the mother stuck?Or can she fight?

Hi all,
I’m going through a divorce and was wondering if anyone knows where I can find a support group. There are tons of online forums, but I’d really like to be part of a group that meets regularly.
I’ve tried parent without partners and they havne’t responded to my emails. I’d love to find a group like this for singles in general (not just for single parents.
Thanks for any suggestions. Heidi

Ok this is for a friend but not me.

She is attempting to file for divorce but the paperwork is to confusing and she also cannot find her now ex. She cant afford to pay for her legal services her self, and she has also attempted to go to the local self help center at our court house but they dont do much else then give her the paperwork and tell her to refill it out. What other resources does she have? She is located in LA county.

My lawyer never sent it to me, I don`t live in the US. I know the court filed divorce a month ago.In Orange County, CA

I came across this show on Bravo. Their families are a mess. They think they look good, but what Idiots they come across. Drugs, juve hall, no where baseball career ratyher than college. Money hungry rich kids and divorced wives looking for the next sucker to give them money. Oh, and they want us to cry because one of them lost their house in divorce and their kids horse riding. boo hoo.

Four, almost five years ago, I went through a nasty divorce. I gave my ex-husband physcial custody (we both have joint )because he was well better off. He promise not to pursue child support because he makes way more than me and that he has the house we bought together. Right after the divorce was final, he pursue child support and moved the kids without my knowledge. For four years, I’ve asked his family members of his and the kids wereabout, but got no help. I tried telling that to the child support rep, but they didn’t care. Before mother’s day of this year, I went directly to the child support agency and told them my story. I’ve been stuggling trying to make ends meet, to support my older son, who is not fathered by my ex. I don’t mind paying child support if the money is going to my kids (it’s not, he is a regular at Pachanga Casino, I heard friends tell me). When I finally did see my kids, they were in riped clothes, bad hygeine and was in day care most of the time.